I am hooked on the new show, A Million Little Things, starring Ron Livingston, who was in the cult classic Office Space. I do not know exactly where the show is going, but I am appreciating the message thus far.
The premise without giving too much away is this: One person out of a group of friends commits suicide. It wasn’t an emotional, irrational decision; he planned it for years! In his departure, he has left gifts, words of encouragement, advice, and wisdom—which all boils down to one key point: Life is about a million little things. The show follows the impact of this loss on all the characters and how his messages affect them.
I have long said and blogged about how I believe life is made up of a lot of little things. I disagree with the well-known saying “Don’t sweat the small stuff; it’s all small stuff.” In fact, I would argue that we are where we are today because people have forgone the little things. They have gotten lazy and haven’t paid attention to the very little things that can make a huge difference in this world.
Little things like saying please and thank you and opening the door for someone. RSVPing – you know that thing you do when you appreciate being including and respect a person enough to actually let them know whether you will be attending or not? Holding our tongue because every thought that comes into your mind does not need to be shared with the entire world! Picking up the phone and talking to someone. Being a friend by carving out time to BE a friend. Sending notes or cards of encouragement to someone struggling. Putting technology away at the end of the day to play with your kids and pets. Driving with others in mind because you aren’t the only person on the road. Smiling and saying hello since we are all in this journey of life together.
Little things like saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Having integrity to do the right thing simply because it is the right thing. Keeping your word and honoring your commitments, even when they inconvenience you. Putting people first, valuing and respecting all.
Yes, little things do matter. In marriages, they can be the difference between divorce and a great love story. Just ask someone whose heart is broken what happened. They forgot to love one another. They didn’t do the simple, little every-day things that tell someone “Hey, you matter to me. You are the most important person to me, and I love you”
Little things can help someone not feel all alone and give them some hope. At work, it is what gets you promoted. Perhaps we should start focusing our energies on the little things. I’m pretty sure that if we do, the bigger things will work out better.
If you are married and the little things have long been forgotten, please order my booklet The FIT Marriage Formula. It offers lots of little things that will make a big difference in your marriage. It just might save it.