As a personal trainer, I have always prided myself on saying goodbye to clients. When I’ve done my job right, they are empowered to live a healthy lifestyle on their own. They no longer need me, and that’s a victory! Unfortunately, I see too many programs that create crutches for people, and the relationship becomes co-dependent, not to mention expensive.
Could I have gotten more money out of some people? You bet I could, but my passion is improving the quality of people’s lives. My emphasis isn’t on lining my pocket book. Like everyone, I need to make a living. There are always those people who know themselves well enough to say, “I get it. I know what to do, but I won’t do it. I’m lazy!” These people keep coming back, but it’s by their request, not my demand. Do you see the difference?
As a coach, if your clients can’t survive when you are gone for a few days, you have done your clients a dis-service. This is co-dependent coaching and can do more harm than good. This becomes more about your ego than helping. Sayings like, “I can never get away – I’m needed” are signs of unhealthy relationships and zero boundaries. Is this the kind of person you want shaping and molding your life?
As a leader, your people should know what to do and when without you looking over their shoulder and micro-managing, which by the way, is all about your ego! With proper training and the right tools, your team should be self-sufficient. Only when big hurdles are encountered should you need to get involved. If your people are coming to you for every little thing, something is amiss. They either aren’t the right person for the job, haven’t been trained, don’t have what they need to get the job done, or you are not a good leader. Ouch. That might hurt, but the truth shall set you on the course for improving.
In all cases, we need to check our motives. Helping, coaching and leading people should be about them, not us. We should want to work ourselves out of a job and celebrate as they move on. If you are seeking a personal trainer or coach, be sure you align yourself with someone who wants you to succeed without draining your savings account.
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