We recently saw the Tom Hanks movie, A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood, and it reminded me of the importance of emotional health. Most of us do something toward our physical health every day, but we must not forget our feelings. Mr. Rogers’ mission was “to help children deal with their feelings in a positive way.” In the movie, you discover he also touched adults who struggled with emotions and gave great tools for dealing with life.
You have to see it, but the gentleman who interviews Mr. Rogers observes how he deals with some pretty dark and heavy topics like death, divorce, and bullying. As a kid, I didn’t catch it. Now that I am grown up, I am so grateful for his dedication and hard work with real ways to deal with feelings. We didn’t call it emotional intelligence then, but that is exactly what he was equipping kids with.
The exciting news is that any of us at any time can increase our EQ. What better time than the holidays to be aware of feelings: ours and others. Using actual words to describe how we feel seems so simple, but it defines what is going on. Are you sad? Angry? Frustrated? As Mr. Rogers says, “anything that is defined can be dealt with.” It is the things we leave hidden that become like a cancer inside of us.
Give yourself a wonderful gift this Christmas: emotional awareness.
Do you agree with the Christmas song “It’s the most wonderful time of year?” Many do not and just hold on and pray they will “just get through the holidays.” What has happened? This truly is an amazing season, and we need to take it back. My 2020 God Theme has come to me already: linger. I’ve already been enjoying it and embracing the idea of lingering just a little longer.
This is the perfect time of year to put that word into practice. Don’t rush from one holiday activity to another. Be selective and present. Meaning, don’t over commit; instead, be fully and completely engaged with the people you chose to spend time with. If you have shopping to do, try to focus on the people you love and the joy it brings you to find just the right gift. If you start to get caught up in the craziness, listen to the music and hum along. Linger in that feeling.
Having plans with people and shopping for gifts means you have an abundant life. Think about that and linger for moment about those who aren’t as fortunate. Don’t complain about celebrating the holiday; rejoice
This year is winding down, and you are probably planning your 2020 goals and objectives. As you do, remember these simple tips to reduce your stress and create move success:
- Have clarity – You’ve heard the saying “pick a lane” and it applies whether you a business owner or employee. Know what you do best and narrow down what you will do within that niche. Try to please everyone, and you will please no one.
- Know your why – What is the reason behind the goal? Your objectives should fit within the larger company targets. As a small business owner, why did you start your business in the first place? Don’t lose site of why and passion.
- Question your goals – Don’t be easy on yourself. Filter all goals, objectives, and marketing initiatives through the filter of “what will this do for my business?”
Of course, use the SMART principle and keep all goals Specific, Measurable, Action-oriented, Realistic, and Timed. Here’s to an exciting and successful new year!
I am here to help you with your 2020 goals! Besides coaching, you can get a copy of my Reach the Goal is Record Time! booklet. It guides and directs you toward those SMART goals and give strategies for accomplishing them quickly.