As someone with high standards for myself and others, I’m finding our current situation frustrating. As a customer paying good money, I’m expected to be happy paying more and getting less. I understand a lot has transpired in the last couple of years, and multiple factors are impacting us all. However, it doesn’t justify skimping or getting by or not even trying. That, my friends, is a loser’s mindset!
Those with a winner’s mindset will be triumphant regardless of what is attacking them because success starts in their mind. Let me use my recent book signing as an illustration. With nine published books with multiple publishers under my belt, I have been to tons of book signings through the years. I have learned that most people can’t see beyond the nose on their face, and won’t even notice me. I had one lady with her face in her phone bump right into my table and look up in amazement that something was in her way. She didn’t say excuse me but continued on with her face in her phone. Two words for her: situational awareness!
Others walk right in and disregard the BIG sign next to me that says “Meet Author Lorraine Bossé-Smith” and ask me where the restroom is or where they could find fiction books. Since I have a successful mindset, that means I do more than expected. I got to the Barnes & Noble store about 30 minutes early. For one, I’ve had too many employees completely forget I am even coming, so this gives us time to set up. But more importantly, I take the time to familiarize myself with the store so that I can answer the questions that come my way…all of which have nothing to do with my book. Why? Because I do more than expected. It’s a winning mindset.
I am also the one who remembers special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries as well as difficult times in people’s lives like the loss of a loved one. All too often, remembering me is not reciprocated. However, I can go to sleep at night knowing I have shown concern, care and love for others…I haven’t cocooned myself and become self- absorbed like many. Ultimately, that is a losing mindset for all involved.
In a world that doesn’t bother, I still send hand-written notes and cards. This might just seem silly to you, but the most successful among us tell us that simple acts like making your bed every day or putting the grocery cart back sets your mind up for success, and it has served me well.
When I faced two medical diagnosis that had no cure, I used my mindset to defy it, overcome it, defeat it and live my life! Most people accept whatever a medical professional tells them without any question. Please remember these are just imperfect people who are extremely overworked and understaffed. Your health isn’t their priority…it’s just a job that they can barely perform any more.
The way our medical system is set up, it is designed to treat symptoms with drugs, not get to the root of the problem. This mindset will keep you in a sick prison, but my kind of mindset will set you free. The choice is yours, and I know many will (out of fear) continue to stay in their prison because it is a known entity. For those brave enough, I salute you! We must pave the way for others. I’m not just talking health issues here. Defying the diagnosis also means not accepting lies as truths no matter how often they are told or how loudly they are spoken.
It took great courage for me to stand up and defy what I was told. My mindset was put to the test, but I took on each day because I wanted to be healed not medicated. Sick people make our country billions of dollars, and the pharmaceutical companies own our health care system. I’ve said it over and over again…follow the money!
Others can’t want more success or better health for you than you are willing to achieve yourself. In my book, Defy Your Diagnosis: Overcome Any Obstacle with the FIT Life Formula I shared principles and a mindset that will allow you to become a victor, not a victim. A first step? Do more than is expected of you, and you will begin to create the winning mindset that will serve you well in all aspects of live.