I’m going back a number of years here, but I enjoyed the movie with Tom Hanks and Madonna called A League of Their Own. It’s a story of a has-been baseball coach who has a drinking problem and is demoted to a women’s league. He’s not happy about it but slowly begins to see the incredible talent, drive and ambition these women players have. It’s a fun movie if you haven’t seen it.
One of the iconic lines from it is when one of the girls makes a bonehead play, and Tom Hanks rips her a new one. She begins to cry. With salt and grit, he says, “There’s no crying in baseball!” It is this concept in which I want to address today. It’s called Emotional Intelligence, and it is vital to success in the workplace.
In the movie, Tom Hanks is trying to help these women rise to the level of professional play of men. If they want to compete, they need to toughen up. The workplace is no different. There should not be emotional outburst at work. Period. There are some who say, “It’s okay – cry.” Really? There is a time and place for everything, and work is not where you should have a meltdown. We aren’t paid to work through our traumas or problems. We are paid to get a job done.
I get it. Stress is high and emotions can run wild, but each person much know what they need to do in order to keep those emotions in check. I know some who power walk during their lunch break for that very reason. They can decompress and process. Others might workout before or after work to let off some stream. Whatever works for you…but you need to do it outside of work in order to be a healthy, contributing member of the team. There should not be any crying on the job.
When I was very young, I remember getting extremely upset and hurt about something a co-worker said. I ran to the restroom so that no one would see me cry. My emotional intelligence was lower then, and I had little control over my feelings. The good news for all of us is that we can improve and increase our emotional intelligence at any time. We just need to invest some time in it! Now I am in charge of my emotions, not the other way around.
If you find yourself struggling with getting upset, angry, hurt or overwhelmed, you have low emotional intelligence and need to build up those muscles. You’re not alone. Social media is full of people bobbing at the bottom of emotional intelligence, and other’s comments dictate their happiness. It’s actually a sad place to be. A coach like me can help you develop those coping skills because success in the workplace or happiness in life goes to those who don’t have outbursts and breakdowns at inappropriate times or places.
Emotions in of themselves are natural and a part of life. It boils down to what we do with them, where and to whom. As a company, I can come in and teach principles and strategies that allow everyone to better themselves for more cohesive teams. I’m happy to help; give me a call.