Happy Valentine’s Day a little early! I hope you take some time to give yourself a little love. The new Miley Cyrus song called Flowers is written about her breakup with Liam Hemsworth. In the song she says “I can love me better than you can.” I think she is coming from a different place than me, but I took that as a truth about self-care: no one can do it for you.
Only you know what fills up your cup. Only you know when you have reached your max and need a break. This past weekend, the pastor shared about the importance of getting away from everything and renewing your spirit. His example for this principle was Jesus. Even the Son of Man, God’s only Son needed time alone to recharge. Jesus often pulled away after giving everything He had to others. He would pray, spend time in silence, and check in with the Father.
I hope that sinks in for you. If Jesus with all His powers needed time for self-care, then we must REALLY make it a priority. Here’s the second important key to this: Jesus didn’t pull away to distance Himself and forget about giving to others. No, he went away so that He would have more to give! Did you catch that?
As an advocate for self-care before it was a buzz word and hot topic, I can say I’m concerned with how far into selfishness we have moved. Self-care has been perverted into something so inwardly focused that it is downright scary. Never was self-care about pushing everyone else away and not having time for them. It was always intended to be more and give more.
We are put on this planet to help each other walk the journey. Everything else is noise. Yes, we need money to live, requiring us to work, but when we work, be kind. I hope the days of workaholics is over, but being all-consumed with one’s self isn’t any better. It’s going from one extreme to the other.
When we carve out time to refresh, we will find that balance between self and others. Pay attention to your inner voice and listen to when it is time for you to take a step back so that you may continue moving forward.
February is known as the month of love because of Valentine’s Day on the 14th. I am reading more and more about the concern and anxiety many have due to the very uncertain times we are living in. My spirit is sensing I am not the only one wanting to be more intimate with God.
As I shared my word this year is compassion, and it is requiring me to spend less time in my head with the knowledge I have about God and more time living in my heart where His spirit resides. The closer we get to God, the more His peace will consume us. Certainty is a human need, and if we continue to look to the world to provide it, we will feel lost and despaired.
Our circumstances cannot and should not dictate our sense of certainty but rather only God can fill that void with His everlasting hope, love, joy, and peace. I know my situation is not positive from a world view; yet, I find myself feeling calm…most of the time. I am human and have my moments, but I take a deep breathe and seek the Father.
I love the song playing on The Message (XM radio channel 63) with lyrics that say, “I don’t know what the day will bring, but I know Who will bring the day.” That has to be enough, and as we intentionally spend quality time being intimate with God, that truth will sink in no matter what is going on around us.
The only way to prevent from being tossed about in the tornado of stress and uncertainty is to anchor ourselves to God. Find ways each day to be intimate with Him. Be real, authentic, and allow time to listen to what He has to say to you today.
I continue to be amazed at employers saying they can’t get workers. I constantly hear horror stories of employees going to lunch and not returning. Well, if you continue to fish in the same pond full of infected and sick fish, this is what you will get.
Let me be blunt: Baby Boomers and Gen X have incredible work ethics and (listen carefully) they WANT to work. Gen Z and Y, as a whole, do not. They aren’t interested in the traditional job and all the confinements that go with it.
Good for them! They are creative and rather piece together multiple gigs so that they can have flexibility. However, if your business cannot operate like this, you have to start fishing in a different pond where the fish are healthy and ready to jump into your net!
Companies are missing out on qualified candidates by first relying too heavily on online job portals that are flawed and having extremely young and inexperienced people screen. When your staff is interviewing for a VP of HR and asks the candidate “um, what does HR stand for exactly?” THAT is your problem.
I’m a seasoned recruiter with vast experience and knowledge that allows me to hire from the receptionist to the GM. I know where to look to find the right people who will show up and work. If you are frustrated and tired of high turn around, give me a call.
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