IF YOU CAN DEFINE IT, YOU CAN DEFEAT IT
The title of my latest book is bold, and I struggled for years as to whether to title it: Defy Your Diagnosis: Overcome Any Obstacle with the FIT Life Formula. I had all the confidence in my premise and FIT Life Formula because I had lived it out multiple times. However, I was nervous as to what people would think about it and had to get over my own fears. The reality is some will get it, and some won’t. I had to be brave enough to get the message out for those who needed it and would embrace it. My prayer is more people will get it!
I recently watched A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood with Tom Hanks for the second time, and I was surprised at what struck me this round. Apparently, Mr. Rogers believed in my message long before I did! He simply said, “If you can mention it, you can manage it.” He was talking about death at the time and how so many cannot discuss it. Yet, if you can name it, you can heal it! Exactly!
You see, the first step in defying your diagnosis is to define it. Trust me, this isn’t always as easy as it sounds. Too often, we accept what others tell us about ourselves: we are stupid, weak, never going to amount to anything, missed the boat, stuck, as good as it gets, sick beyond healing…fill in the blank. I don’t know about you, but I got tired of letting other people control my life and dictate my path. Success requires us to clean out all the negative voices in our head and replace them with OUR truths: you’re smart, strong, talented, making things happen, moving forward, and healthy!
This step is critical because we can’t treat, heal or cure that which hasn’t been given a diagnosis. The challenge is in what you call it: failure or stepping block to success? Incurable or curable disease? Broken or experienced? Stuck or growing? Word choices matter! We must feed our minds and spirits with positives. Once you define it, you will need to defend it because others will try to tell you that you are crazy for dreaming so big. Why? Because they are accepting someone else’s diagnosis for their life, and they are limiting their potential. If you go after something big, it reminds them how very small they are playing.
When we display courage to overcome our obstacles, we just might fan someone else’s flame. They may think, “If you can do it, maybe I can, too.” We give them permission to be the hero in their own life story! So please, be brave!
Something else that Mr. Rogers did on a regular basis was meditation and prayer. His wife said he would pray for people by name every morning. I do what I call “Coast to Coast” prayer; I start on one side of the country and pray for those I know and move my way to the other coast. Focusing on others helps remind me I am not the only one struggling. We ALL have setbacks, and life can knock anyone down. It’s what we do next that matters most.
In his meditative time, Mr. Rogers would spend one entire minute thinking of all those who “loved him into being.” His explanation of this in the movie was that even the most volatile of relationships taught us something. Give it a try. I was shocked at how many people came to mind: parents, teachers, family, friends, pastors, mentors…all who gave of themselves to either love me, nurture me, help me, teach me, or just accept me. This exercise will quickly show you that you are not alone! We may feel like it during the fight of the battle to overcome, but your support team is just a memory away.
My book goes deeper into additional steps of how you can defy ANY obstacle, and the FIT Life Formula is your road map to success. When you fed up with where you are and unhappy with where you are going, check it out. I’m available to help you define it with tools to defend it so you can defeat it to win!