Back in 1997, I started offering consulting services and created my business not out of a desire but out of obedience. I had just gone through a nasty divorce and had nothing emotionally or financially left. I sought the security of a job, but God told me no. He made it very clear to me that He wanted my security in Him not a position or company. I had numerous job opportunities but turned them down as business was coming to me.
Through the years, I have changed what I offer depending upon the economy. Certain passions arose, and I pursued a variety of paths from executive coaching, personal training, writing, and recruiting. One thing I have had to repeatedly learn is just because I was good at something didn’t mean I should be doing it. As a small business, I had to learn to let go of some things and hire professionals to help so that I could focus on my sweet spot. I have also had to continually check in with my “why” to determine my course.
We each have a mission – a reason we have been put on this planet. Financial struggles, health issues, and life setbacks can push our purpose to the back burner. We can also begin to doubt our purpose, especially if we listen to naysayers. You know the ones…those who don’t have enough faith to believe in their own dreams let alone yours.
A scene that captures the essence of this is from the movie, Wonder Woman. I know the movie has been out since 2017, but I find myself discovering new messages each and every time I watch it. Recently, I caught how others were expecting Diana to “hide” herself. Steve and his secretary take her to a store to cloth her properly because she doesn’t fit in. I mean, an Amazon Woman in Britain? That doesn’t fly. She goes along with it and is focused on getting to the war. Her calling is to kill Aries, the God of War. Her entire life has been preparing her for this mission. She learns that the “front” is where the action is, and she asks to be taken to it because she believes the God of War will be found there.
When she arrives, both sides are at a standstill. It is “no-man’s land.” Neither side can cross it. She is told they cannot, should not, and that they will just have to let the poor people suffering the consequences of the war die. Something rises up in Diana, and she can’t control it. It’s her “why” and purpose. She strips herself of the clothing and sheds the disguise to reveal her true identify: Wonder Woman. She isn’t “average woman” or “gets-by woman.” No, she is Wonder Woman, and she had been playing small to appease those around her.
When we hold back because we are afraid to upset others or feel that our actions will make others uncomfortable, we are putting our passion and purpose into a limiting box. No one wins because the world misses out on what we could have contributed. When Wonder Woman steps out onto the front lines and enters no-man’s land, everyone shrieks because of their fear. She starts off slow, warding off bullets and bombs, but her confidence grows as she is fulfilling her purpose. This IS what she was put on this planet for, and she picks up speed. As she does, the soldiers watch in awe, and they are inspired to follow her lead. In the end, they save the innocent people in the village.
What we need to focus on is not what will happen if we show the world our true identify, but what will happen if we don’t? Who won’t have the courage to pursue their dream? Who won’t be brave enough to take action? What will the world miss out on because we played small? Know your why so innately that it burns inside of you and rises up to the point of you shedding any disguise. Stay focused and follow your passion; see where it leads you!
Struggling to find your “why?” Perhaps you feel your purpose or dream has died? A coach can help! Contact me to discuss how we can get you back on your path.