I was taught manners, and I know I am dating myself when I say I was taught to say Mr. or Mrs. when meeting an adult. Although my family was not high on the social ladder, my mother did instill a high value for being polite.
Perhaps to some technology seems to render such skills as manners useless, but I disagree. Thanking someone for the effort of selecting, purchasing, wrapping and sending a gift is just being grateful. Are we as a society so inwardly focused that we truly cannot offer a few moments of gratefulness?
Humans are designed by our very nature to connect with each other. Technology is a false sense of connectivity, in my opinion. Certainly, we can see pictures and type messages, but seeing someone’s face…their expressions, their energy level and hearing their voice inflections reaches us deep within our makeup. We are touched and bond at a deeper level.
Through the years, I have seen many people stop sending hand-written notes. What a tragedy! Ask any military service member if they would prefer a text or a loving, hand-written note from someone who took the time to invest in them…and you’ll get your answer. Email and text messages are even becoming “too inconvenient” for some as they choose Facebook to broadcast to the masses. We’re losing our connection in the name of “social media.”
If we continue on the path that is all about “me” when it is convenient for “me” and don’t bother to acknowledge others, thank people, we may not have much to be grateful for!
For more on this subject, pick up a copy of Alone Together by Sherry Turtle or purchase my booklet Manners Still Matter from my website store. Technology should serve us, not enslave us. Manners STILL matter!