If you follow me, you have heard this before, but it is worth repeating. We are entering the last few months of the years, and that means holidays galore! Our mindset now will decide whether we maintain our weight or gain extra pounds.
I follow what I call the 80/20 rule. Eighty percent of the time, I eat right. I skip the dessert, avoid the bread, and get plenty of fresh fruits & vegetables along with lean protein options. This means that 20 percent of the time, however, I can be a little bad. If you look at our seven-day week and consider three meals a day, that’s 21 meals. Take that number times 20 percent, and you have 4 meals to play with.
What I like about this approach is the freedom. I don’t know about you, but if I tell myself you cannot EVER have cupcakes, I immediately WANT cupcakes. I will get consumed by a case of the wants like a four-year-old child. I WANT CUPCAKES! LOL Can you relate? It’s human nature and how our brains are wired. Why fight it?
If, on the other hand, I know I could have a cupcake during the week, I now can decide whether I really want one or not. Usually, I don’t, but I like being free to choose. Now these four meals don’t mean we go hog wild and blow our entire week. It does give us some wiggle room to live a little. If you are like me, you might find that you don’t even use all four fudge meals in a week.
Living by the 80/20 rule allows for birthday parties, dinner with friends, and a little fun in your week. Just don’t flip it and start eating poorly 80 percent of the time and think 20 percent is enough for good health.
Tina Turner has a hit song called What You See is What You Get, and in most cases, I agree. As a person of integrity, I am who I am. I don’t have a certain way of living privately than I do publicly. However, there are times when what you see isn’t necessarily the truth.
My fitness class members will attest to my positive attitude and high energy in classes. Because of my preparation and dedication to providing excellent fitness classes that are fun and safe, it can appear that this all comes easy. It doesn’t.
Because of my health challenges, by body has taken a beaten through the years. I show up with a bright smile on my face, but I may be in serious pain. I know some of my class members wonder why I take the elevator up to our class room or why I try to park close. It isn’t because I’m lazy; it’s because I’m desperately trying to handle issues that cannot be seen.
I have a floating toe (basically disconnected from the foot at this point) on my left foot, hammer toes on both feet, two fused toes, collapsed arches and a nasty bunion on my right foot. On top of all of that, I tore the tendons and muscles away from the left ankle in 2020, and that is still healing.
YET…I still teach classes, hike, run and play tennis. The pain can be off the charts at time, and I can barely make it back to my car after teaching. Why? I work with what I have, and I press on. I remind all my clients and class members to do the best they can, and I live that out every day.
I also don’t want to be defined by what I can’t do but rather do things despite my limitations. It’s a mindset and determination I have, and I encourage you to not settle. Let us all remember not to judge others because we truly cannot ever know what they are dealing with until we walk in their shoes. Trust me, mine wouldn’t fit you.
Cindi Lauper’s song from the 80s, Your True Colors, has been rattling around in my head as I witness countless broken commitments, ghosting and disrespect of others. Yes, your true colors are showing, and they aren’t pretty!
I come from a time when commitments were solid agreements that were honored, no matter what. Don’t feel like doing what you said you’d do? Tough! Found something else you’d rather do? Too bad! What has happened to accountability, integrity, honor and respect?
A friend of mine, Thomas Shea, calls excuses demons, and they are destroying us from the inside out. You may think your excuses are good reasons, but there are no excuses for ghosting someone…PERIOD. We have too much technology at our disposal to accept this as normal behavior.
What I see is narcissism, plain and simple. It’s all about self with no regards to other people, team members, customers, etc. I feel a shift coming, and those who treat people with dignity and respect will rise to the top, and the others will be left wondering what happened. Read the story the Boy Who Cried Wolf. Ghost enough people, and you will be left in the dust…alone.
Perhaps you need some accountability to get you on the right track…to honor your commitments to yourself and others? Coaching can help! I only work with people who want to change and are willing to take the action to do so. Call me if you are interested.
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