Many of you have followed my health journey (and/or read my book, Defy Your Diagnosis, where you learned more about me than you probably cared to!), and since 2018, my life has been riddled with unexplained and unanswered health questions. I found myself in a massive funk this year. Two bouts of COVID-19 didn’t help, that is for sure. Not one to stay blue long, I had to ask hard questions: what do I have control over and what can I do?
Although I saw every specialist I could think of, the one thing remaining was my breast implants, which were inserted in January of 2018…exactly when my health went off the rails. To be fair, I also started going through the “transition” and experience hormonal imbalances. But those have all been addressed as has my thyroid concerns.
You may be reading this as I undergo surgery to have them removed. I told my surgeon I haven’t been happy for four years as he made them bigger than I wanted, and with all my weight gain (40 pounds!), they are just enormous…for me. I’ve always been slender, and this isn’t me. He agreed that I am probably one of the rare people who have a negative reaction to the foreign objects in their body. Go figure.
I just want to feel better, and I have been eagerly awaiting my surgery on September 2. The lesson learned here: listen to your gut. I knew something was wrong and kept chasing all the wrong things. The positive is I (once again) know what I don’t have. This was like having Lyme disease all over again! It has been extremely frustrating
Don’t get so discouraged about your health that you do nothing about it. I certainly did every diet (like eliminating all sugar and flour) out there, took all sorts of products designed for massive weight loss, and a bucket full of other things…all of which did absolutely zero. Yet, deep inside I knew I wasn’t doing what I was supposed to do. Procrastinating and waiting only made me feel worse, so don’t do it! Learn from me and do what you know you need to do…even if it is hard.
The surgery isn’t cheap, and of course, the implants were extremely expensive on the front end. At this point, I’ve spent more than both of them trying to get well. What a waste. Is something weighing on you? Follow through on it! Don’t wait. Better days await, and I can’t wait for mine! I appreciation good thoughts and prayers.
In the same vein, I saw a Facebook posting about how we can’t expect God to fix what we aren’t willing to change. Profound and true! Besides my health challenges, I’ve also been in a business slump. The two are definitely related because when you don’t feel well, you see everything differently…not to mention the lack of energy. That being said, I have wanted things to change for my business, but I didn’t take the necessary steps to ignite the change.
Oh sure, I’ve knocked on a bazillion doors through the years. I’ve gone after all sorts of ideas and suggestions from so-called experts, but I didn’t really change my approach…up until now. I’m working with someone to help me get clarity with my career. I’m working through a process that looks at: your passions, what you are good at, what the world needs, and what are people willing to pay for, and your success is at the intersection of all of them. I love that concept!
I have not focused enough time on the last one. I know my passion is needed, but that doesn’t always mean people will pay for it. I am looking at how I can still do what I love but bring in a better income for myself. I’ve tended to look out for everyone else at the expense of myself, and that has to (and will) change. I’ll keep you posted on this journey as well, but I think this is good food for thought for all of us! It isn’t just one of those areas…it is the intersection of them all. That, my friend, is where happiness will be, too.
I am one of those people who already has my obituary written. I review and update it yearly. My intent is to have all those items in order so loved ones have very little to handle upon my departure and won’t have additional stress.
If you haven’t taken a stab at writing yours, I encourage you to do so for the reason above but also for yourself. It is sobering to spell your entire life out in one or two pages. If you wrote yours today, would you be satisfied with how you have lived your life? Our career is where we get a lot of significance and worth, but did we actually bring value to the world?
If you have goals and ambitions, they can’t be written until you have actually achieved them. Perhaps this might be a gentle push to make them happen because time waits for no man! If you would want to have that you’ve written a book in your obituary, what’s stopping you from writing it? I know it can be an overwhelming task, and as a published author of nine books, I can be a great resource and encouragement to you. Let me help make that a reality for you!
Whatever else you have in mind, seek out help to get them done. Make them a priority and commit to taking action every day toward it. You don’t want to be at the end of your life full of regrets.
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