Fear of itself isn’t bad. Appropriate fear prevents us from jumping off a treacherous cliff with rocks down below that will kill us. Fear can also warn us when danger is approaching to keep us safe. More often than not, though, fear paralyzes us, preventing us from being the best version of our self. Whether the fear is real or imagined, it will stop us dead in our tracks if we let it.
Last year proved how powerful fear can become as many chose to give up a year of their lives. In my opinion, the fear became more deadly than the virus itself. Some fear is healthy, but allowing it to control us is not.
To combat fear, I often take on something I’m uncomfortable doing. For instance, my husband drives us for most of our outdoor adventures, but a few times a year, I get in my car and drive myself. Why? I’m nervous about it, and I don’t like that feeling. I don’t want to not do something because I am uneasy about it. I also go out hiking and running alone to keep my senses sharp and my situational awareness high.
What frightens you? Have you attempted it? You don’t have to be perfect, but I encourage you to face your fear. Is it public speaking? I hear many people would choose death over speaking in public because it scares them to death. Well, you need to volunteer to speak to a group! That’s how I overcame that fear when in high school. I signed up for tons of opportunities to speak to groups, and the more I did it, the more comfortable I got. It’s like anything – practice, practice, practice! By the way, I can coach you on how to Speak to Any Audience…with grace, dignity and engagement.
Do you travel alone? I know women who will not fly an airplane with out their husband. I think it is time for a girl’s trip! I actually love traveling alone, visiting new cities and seeing places. It can be a bit overwhelming, but I’ve learned that the more prepared I am, the less scary it becomes.
What new skill, language, software program or technology are you avoiding? Make a point to spend a little time every day tackling it. At first, you won’t be happy, and you will probably be frustrated. Once you begin to get comfortable with what is new, you will have a huge sense of accomplishment, and that will fuel the courage to take something else on. There are no limits, only in your mind.
Life is too short to let fears control us and dictate what we will or won’t do. From the mild to the wild, take the Fear Challenge and face it, once and for all! I’d love to hear how it goes, and if you need a little wind beneath your wings, give me a call. My coaching services can help you along the way. We all need a cheerleader now and then.
Here’s a pamphlet that helps us make that shift: