You may not think you are in an abusive relationship, but if you live here in the United States, you are in a toxic relationship that is no good for you. Take it from me – I know what abusive relationships look like. I was married to a physically and emotionally abusive man in my past, and I’ve endured sexual harassment of the highest order at work.
And like me, you may think you are too smart to be taken for such a ride; however, our mental intelligence (IQ) has nothing to do with it. It is all about emotional intelligence (EQ) and our self-esteem, and when those are low, we can easily find ourselves being manipulated and controlled.
I lost my father when I was only 13, and my mom was abusive verbally. She did the best she could, but it set me up for a pattern of picking those kinds of people as bosses and mates. You know, those who put you down, make fun of you, intentionally hurt you, and they make it all seem like it is your fault. If only you were better – taller, leaner, better looking, smarter, etc. The reality is abusers are insecure twits who make it their life mission to make you feel like crap so you don’t realize what an utter loser they are! Abusers come in all shapes, sizes, colors, sexes and backgrounds.
And when you start to show some Moxy and think for yourself, they resort to fear tactics and physically restraining you. They create an environment where you are isolated from those who care about you so that you don’t have a support group. You only know their words, and you begin to comply simply out of fear of consequences and retaliation. They lie, twist everything around, blame others for their bad actions and justify wrong doing. THIS is what we are dealing with in America.
Yes, our own government is abusing us. They want us to feel like worthless victims, weak, alone and isolated. They want us to feel like we don’t deserve any better than their rhetoric, lies, deceit and abusive behavior. Like any abusive relationship, they bank on the fact that you won’t have the courage to break the ties – that you will just accept and settle for their awful, dreadful, toxic ways.
Many women stay in abusive relationships because the husband is the financial provider. They worry that they can’t make it on their own. Well, all the government handouts were designed to do just that: make you dependent upon them. Ultimately, they put you in a prison of fear and paralyzed you. I hope by know you’ve seen the massive deceit of the entire pandemic and how it was an organized plan to whip us all into submission because citizens who are easily manipulated and controlled won’t fight back. Abusers want to do whatever they want, regardless of the fall out and harm to others. They do not care about us!
Abusers don’t like push back. They don’t like alternative views, and they most certainly hate the truth. They will go to great lengths to hide and cover up the truth. Our government has been silencing anyone who dare speak the truth about what is really going on with COVID and gas prices. They have beaten many of you into believing their lies, and those of us who see through their smoke screen are being targeted and shut down. It has to stop!
I can attest that leaving an abusive relationship is difficult, especially if they have beaten your self-confidence to a pulp. As Christians, we have our Defender and great Warrior on our side! We have to call upon His name, and we must muster up the courage to say “enough.” For me, it took my mom’s terminal diagnosis to wake me up. I accepted all the physical abuse from my ex-husband and bought into the lie that I deserved it. But when he told me I was not allowed to see my dying mother, that was the line for me. When he started verbally abusing her, he saw another side of me. I found my Moxy, and God gave me the strength to leave.
Perhaps you are comfortable with communism and believe it will be fine to be told what to do, when, how and have a government rule without accountability. Do you really wish this for your grandchildren? Do you want them living in government-provided houses, standing in line for food handouts, unable to afford gasoline? We are on this path. It is abusive, and unlike many women, we hold the cards. WE pay THEM! Time to stand up to the abusers.
Since they are not protecting our borders and are allowing an unprecedented invasion into our country (interesting how upset we are about Russia invading the Ukraine YET we are being invaded!), they need us more than we need them. They are not protecting our health care but rather allowing pharmaceuticals to charge outrageous amounts for medications people need to live.
We need to kick out the abusers, one election, one city, town and state at a time. We need to choose people of integrity who have our best interests in mind, not lining their pockets. Abusers rarely change and only want more power. It consumes them and will destroy us if we don’t do something about it.
The first step is to admit we are in an abusive relationship. Don’t beat yourself up on how we got here but rather focus your energies on how we can find a healthier one. Our government is entrenched with abusers right now, so it is going to take some time. However, with God all things are possible. I thought my life was over after my divorce, but it was just the beginning of something beautiful. Abusers want to keep you down. Don’t let them! Trust in God and pray for Him to bring us through this and out the other side. We owe it to those we love.
PS If you have low self-esteem and struggle with emotional intelligence, I have some great resources and coaching services to help you find your Moxy. Don’t settle! Create a better life for yourself. I’d be happy to help – just give me a call.