I broke out a game called Would You Rather? recently to use as an icebreaker. The premise of the game is you are given an option between two horrible choices, and you must pick one! The conversations centering around the often silly and gross choices is where the fun resides. Have you ever played the game?
The truth is: life is all about choices! Every moment of every day, you are deciding what you will do, how you will spend your time, with whom will you be with, what you will put in your body, etc. In my productivity and stress management courses, I emphasize the importance of making decisions rather than letting things just happen to you (more of a victim mindset instead of victor). This is called putting yourself in the driver’s seat of your own life! This allows you to get more done and reduce stress and anxiety.
With a decision, you are saying “no” to one thing and “yes” to another. For instance, if you say no to binge watching another television show, perhaps you said yes to reading a good book. Or, if you wanted to be outside in nature more, you may have said no to walking the mall and shopping.
Simply wanting something isn’t deciding. I see this all too often: “I want to lose weight.” However, they continue to eat crap and not exercise. Saying isn’t doing! Desiring doesn’t get you results…actions do! Like anything in life, you must have a plan. For everything you don’t want, you need to replace it with something else. Less clutter means buying less stuff (and saving you money as an added bonus)! Moving more means sitting less. If you want peace, you have to walk away from drama.
In my yoga classes, we commit to quieting our minds. This takes effort, and we work hard at focusing on our breathing. Why? Because we need to replace the noise with something else. To just say, “Mind be quiet,” is more crazy brain thinking. Concentrating on deep, slow breathing is saying yes to tranquility and saying no to the chaos.
We are still early in 2024. What are you wishing you had more of? You will need to be willing to do something else less often. We only have so much time each day, and our energy is a limited resource. I want to hear the Holy Spirit more, and this will require me to be still and listen. Less “prayer talking” and more silence.
I’d love to hear your goals, and I’m happy to help you reach them. Give me a call, and let’s chat! In the meantime, my book, I Want My Life Back, gives you real-life, practical steps on how to get back in the driver’s seat of your life.