Our local news channel 3 has a segment called “Caught Misbehaving Badly” where a reporter films people doing, well, bad things! One show highlighted people running through stop signs and another was people not slowing down for pedestrians as they crossed the street. What I find frustrating about the premise is that he never corrects the behavior; he just shames them on television. When did we become a society who gets our thrills from pointing out other people’s faults? Where are our manners?
I guess we have always found it easier to focus on what others are doing wrong instead of looking at ourselves, but now with social media and news program, we can take it to another level of shaming. Does that make you feel better? The questions should be “where are YOUR manners?”
No one is perfect. We all have bad days where we may cut someone off accidentally or run a yellow light. As someone who endures chronic pain, I am very aware that someone who is rude to me may just be hurting like heck. They may not have the energy to be polite and extend a warm smile to me. That doesn’t excuse it, but when all we do is look for people’s faults, we WILL find them.
The reality is we are all doing our best each and every day. Quite playing the victim card and acting like the world is out to get you. People are too overwhelmed to give a nanosecond thought to disrupting your day; they are just getting by. Let’s start a movement of catching people doing something good. Let’s look for the best in people and show some compassion to one another. When we treat others with dignity, respect, and kindness, they will probably pass that one to someone else. The same is true with finding faults, so be careful because you just might be the next person caught on camera displaying bad manners.
We could all use a refresher on manners, and that’s just what my booklet, Manners Still Matter, provide in q quick, downloadable PDF. Order your copy today and start the movement!