You May Be Your Own Worst Enemy

I warned you last week that I was going to offer up some tough questions for you to ask yourself this week because, often times, we are our own worst enemy. We create our own chaos and push things out of balance with bad decisions and behaviors. Certainly, life throws us curve balls, but if we take better care and work on keeping our life balanced, those things wouldn’t derail us. They would simply cause of pause and the opportunity to regroup.

When we live on the red line all the time, one little thing can go wrong, and we are off the charts. Our heads explode! I believe many people are frazzled all the time, and here are some of the culprits. Take the time to look at your own behavior – what do you spend your time on? What bad habits are causing you to be overly stressed? I’m not judging anyone here, and we have all fallen into these traps. Our personalities and upbringing will also push us toward certain unhealthy responses. The good news is once you see it and acknowledge it, you can change it.

• Some people are addicted to adrenaline and, therefore, create and seek chaos. They thrive on it until they don’t. They often leave a wake of burnt-out family, friends and co-workers.
• Others are workaholics because they won’t let go and can’t delegate to anyone else because no one is as good as them (so they believe). They build their own prison yet complain about it.
• Many are materialistic and/or love money so much that they will sacrifice everything, including their own health and well-being to pursue it. They choose things over people and then wonder why they are alone.
• Some are running or hiding from the truth, their past, their hurts, or their realities. They never stop long enough to process and progress through They live in a constant state of change.
• Others are egotistical and crave power. They are consumed by being the “top dog” and gaining the position and prestige that they believe they deserve. Everything and everyone is a threat, and they stay off balance to be on guard at all times.
• Many are control freaks desiring perfection in all they do. They cannot accept anything less than the best, and their bar is so high that no one can clear it, including themselves, thus why they never feel balanced.
• And lastly are those who are poor time managers and procrastinate, making their fires everyone else’s crisis. They inflict their stress on everyone around them and never get ahead nor feel like they can take a breath.

I wasn’t kidding when I said these would be tough. No one wants to admit any of these, but chances are you are a few of them. If you have done the hard, personal development and spiritual work, you hopefully have put some of them behind you. But we are human, and we will always be on an improvement path. No one arrives and becomes perfect: progress, not perfection.

We will never be balanced and find peace if we continue these negative patterns. I’ve worked extremely hard on work/life balance, and I can help you do the same. My coaching will uncover the culprit and then give you strategies for overcoming and declaring victory over them! Are you ready to get your life back? Let’s chat on how we can get started.

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